Making friends

Socialising from an early age helps children recognise the value of communication, build relationships and have fun. Some children find social contact difficult because it causes anxiety and stress. Close observation of the child in social situations will help you understand how they are feeling and respond.

Start with familiar people

Initially, encourage close contact with key carers and family members using turn-taking games, rhymes and songs. The child will learn that mixing with people can be fun. They will start to look for familiar people, respond with a smile or start to initiate favourite games and songs. Turn-taking games can then be introduced with another child, with support if needed.

Photos that identify family members or teachers can reduce anxiety, reinforcing names and helping to prepare the child prior to a family visit or starting a new class at school.

Meeting others

Children’s centres often run inclusive stay and play sessions where parents can meet others. All children are welcome to participate and there will often be trained staff to direct parents to relevant groups or other families in the area. Information will be available from libraries or local authorities.

Face 2 Face parent befriending

Scope’s Face 2 Face service provides opportunities for families who may feel isolated to make friends and gain more information about their child’s needs. In the video clipbelow, Jo describes her experience following Leila’s diagnosis. Jo accessed the information she needed to be able to look forward to a brighter future for her and Leila but also began to build a network of friends who could support them both. Friendships are important for the child, the siblings and parents, so building a good network will really make a difference.