Sex is an important part of life, and it can be great. Sex should be an equal, positive and happy experience for you. You have the right to be seen and accepted as a person with sexual wants, wishes and desires!
No two people’s sex lives are the same.
Getting ready to have sex also means becoming more independent. You have the right to privacy in your sex life. This is true, even if you may need support from your parents in other parts of your life.
You have the right to be included in sex education, and to learn information that is useful to you.
Sex education in school and college
You may not get the information at school that you need. Asking the right questions may help.
As a young adult, you have the right to learn about sex, and for those lessons to include people with your condition or impairment.
You may have to ask for the specific information you need. You should learn about:
You have the right to be included. Ask for any adjustments that you need.
The information must:
apply to you
be presented in a way that you understand
For example, if your condition means that you find it difficult to open a condom packet, the person teaching you will need to find another way to make this work for you.
Teachers should not say “I don’t know”. If they cannot help you, ask them to find someone who can. They should also respect your privacy. You can ask for a private session on your own if that is what you want.
If you’re not getting the information you need
If you have questions about sex and you do not want to ask them in a lesson, ask someone you trust. For example, a school counsellor, a teacher or anyone you know who can help you. Tell them what you want to know about and why. You can ask them not to tell your parents.
Outsiders is a social, peer support and dating club, run by and for disabled people. You can email them for advice and support. They also provide people who can give you advice and support called ‘sexual advocates’. They can:
explore what sex means to you
help you to make appointments to get sex advice from people like doctors and counsellors
Sexual advocates can also help you to have difficult conversations with other people. For example, talking to your parents about having some time on your own. This could give you the chance to masturbate if you want to.